What are the 3 parts of an I message?

The three components of an “I Message” are:

• Behavior – What is happening around you? What is the other person doing?
• Feeling – How does the person’s behavior make you feel?
• Consequence – What happens as a result?

What are the alternatives when someone responds defensively to your i statements?

Instead of an “I” statement: state how you feel. state why you believe the other person is responsible for you feeling this way. state exactly what you need in the form of a question, or ask an open-ended question if you’re not sure what you need.

What to say to someone who disappointed you?

Believe it or not, I am sincerely apologetic for making you feel that way. I apologize for giving you reasons to believe that I can be a certain someone. I am deeply sorry for that. But I cannot say the same about me changing.

What is the difference between iMessage and you message?

iMessage is Apple’s own instant messaging service that sends messages over the Internet, using your data. They only work when you have an Internet connection. If you are using an iPhone and you send a message to a friend on Android, it will be sent as a SMS message and will be green.

What does Gordon mean by I-messages?

Thomas Gordon coined the term “I message” in the 1960s while doing play therapy with children. I-messages are often used with the intent to be assertive without putting the listener on the defensive by avoiding accusations.

When can a conflict be constructive?

Conflict is constructive when: Results in clarification of important problems and issues. Results in solutions to problems. Involves people in resolving issues important to them. Causes authentic communication.

Why should you avoid you statements?

It puts the person on the defense, making him unable and unwilling to be open to what you have to say and truly listen. Such statements are most common, and also the most harmful in relationships marred with conflict.

What do you say to someone when they ask if you’re fine?

Just say you’re OK. Tell them something positive. Don’t ruin her day with your troubles. Everything in my racing mind tells me to smile and give them good news. Simply put, I can’t muster more than just “ I’m fine. ” Sometimes I wish people knew what I mean when I say I’m fine.

What does “I’m Fine” mean to you when you’re depressed?

Depression makes you feel like you can’t cope with even minor stresses. Just as much as I don’t want to feel this way, I don’t want the people around me to know about my feelings. In short, “I’m fine” means I’m really not fine. It means that I need someone, anyone to help get me out of my own mind.

What does it mean when a guy says I’m Fine?

When I say “I’m fine,” it means my feelings are so awful that I can’t even tell you what I’m thinking. Only those who identify with these feelings can truly understand the agony behind the words “I’m fine.” If you recognize when someone isn’t really fine, know that we really do want you to help us.

Can you muster more than just “I’m Fine”?

Simply put, I can’t muster more than just “ I’m fine. ” Sometimes I wish people knew what I mean when I say I’m fine. I wish they’d dig deeper. My voice says “I’m fine,” and though I give a weak smile, my face must give some indication I’m lying.