Why am I uncomfortable with affection from my parents?

You may feel uncomfortable hugging, kissing, or touching because you don’t know how to handle it. It’s almost as if that part of your brain, because of the experience your parents gave you, did not develop in a healthy way. So, you are lacking and inexperienced when it comes to this.

Why do I reject affection from my mom?

Avoidant attachment It might develop when your mother ignored you or treated you harshly. Maybe she was overly critical and expected you to keep your emotions and behavior completely under control. Instead of offering support, she expected you to look after yourself and meet your own needs.

How do you break a tie with your family?

When You Decide to Sever Ties with a Family Member…

1. Try it out…
2. Heal yourself first.
3. Set a few boundaries/ skip a holiday.
4. Keep a neutral position.
5. Limit contact to times when something major happens.
6. Know that it’s difficult.
7. Focus on who you have and who you are.
8. Don’t pretend everything is okay.

How do I talk to my mom about my feelings?

If your mom is especially busy, ask her to plan a specific time when you are both free in order to talk. During this conversation, express your point of view and what you’ve been feeling as clearly and directly as possible. You want to help your mom to understand you.

What to do when you feel like your mother hates you?

Think about why you feel like your mother hates you. It may help to get out a pen and paper and write about your feelings for ten or fifteen minutes. Ask yourself some questions about the situation. Did a specific instance trigger your thought of “my mom hates me?” Or is this more of a general feeling?

How do you deal with an adult child who ran away?

Let go of your resentments regarding the estrangement. Understand his need to flee—and forgive him. Get to know the adult child you have, not the child you think he should have been. Allow him to get to know you. If your child still has made no contact, grieve the loss and know there is still hope.

How do I deal with my ex husband’s anxiety?

Try to manage your anxiety, and do the right thing by staying in touch with him in a non-intrusive way: occasionally and lovingly. Things may change. Rather than blame yourself or your child for this pain, use your energy to learn about yourself, your own family history and patterns in your other relationships.