Why does a narcissist pick fights?

Usually they do it because they feel angered or insulted by something you have done and want to start a fight. Or, they may be anxious or angry about something else entirely and are taking it out on you. I have discovered that if I ignore their insult and do not rise to the bait, I can often avoid a pointless fight.

Why do narcissists get angry for no reason?

The narcissist’s false self is exposed, causing distress that leads to narcissistic rage. Narcissists are extremely sensitive individuals with very low self-esteem. When their shortcomings are pointed out, they become defensive and frustrated.

Do narcissists try to provoke anger?

When called out for their deplorable behavior, narcissists play the victim and lash out in narcissistic rage when you dare to confront them, however politely (Goulston, 2012). These crazymaking arguments do have a purpose: they serve to distract you from the narcissist’s true self and the nature of their manipulation.

What do you do when a narcissist starts arguing?

Here are the steps you should take:

1. Don’t argue about ‘right’ and ‘wrong’
2. Instead, try to empathise with their feelings.
3. Use ‘we’ language.
4. Don’t expect an apology.
5. Ask about a topic that interests them.
6. Don’t take the bait yourself.
7. Remember to put yourself first.

When does narcissistic rage occur?

Whether at home, at work, in social interactions, or in day-to-day activities, narcissistic rage may occur when: 1. The narcissist doesn’t get his or her way, even when it’s unreasonable. 2. The narcissist is criticized in some way, even when the critique is made diplomatically, reasonably, and constructively.

Why do narcissistic people pick a fight?

On the constant hunt for a “narcissistic supply source” that will pay attention to them, the more heated and volatile an exchange, the more likely a narcy person is to derive pleasure from the argument.” Narcissistic people do not care what they pick the fight about.

Why do narcissists use irrational argument tactics?

“Narcissistic people are famous for using irrational argument tactics to time-suck and abuse unsuspecting victims. Narcissistic people do not care what they pick the fight about. It could be about politics, religion, education, the children, what movie to go see, household duties, etc.

Why do narcissists love drama?

Narcissists love drama. They may be the first to claim that they hate it. But why is it then that they are always surrounded by it? Simple. They thrive on the chaos the drama creates.