Is it OK to lie to your partner about your past relationships?

In short, lying about significant life events isn’t good for you, your partner, or your relationship. Instead, be honest about your history. After all, the first step to learning from your mistakes is acknowledging them.

Is it wrong to ask your boyfriend about his ex?

“Your partner might feel some attraction to an ex, but feel obligated to lie if you ask,” Bennett says. “But, if your partner answers truthfully and the answer is yes, it’s a problem, too. As long as you both are happy, there’s no need to focus on whether some feelings for an ex remain.”

Should you let your partner talk to your ex?

If a spouse or partner wants to contact an ex, or chat with old boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s probably best to encourage them to do so. People have a natural tendency to resist attempts to control their behavior (see relationship dynamics ). If you try to limit or control what a partner does, it can have the opposite effect.

How can I limit my partner’s contact with his ex?

Trying to limit a partner’s contact with an ex often places people on the “outside” rather than on the “inside” of their relationship (see my boyfriend hides contact with his ex ). So if you want to be in the know, it’s best to try and understand why a spouse wants to talk to an ex, and to be supportive (see empathy and truth telling ).

Is it OK to call your ex when you’re still together?

Whether you feel the urge to call your ex out of nostalgia or to vent frustrations, it’s best to avoid contact while you’re still getting over the breakup. If your ex’s phone number is saved on your phone, delete their information and any text message conversations to make contacting them more difficult.

What happens when you complain about your partner’s contact with an ex?

And if you complain about your partner’s contact with an ex, he or she typically they won’t change the behavior; they will instead just try to hide it from you (see survey results—lies lovers tell ). When partners start hiding their behavior, it creates distance within a relationship.