Why does my mom always say because I said so?
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Why does my mom always say because I said so?
Because I said so is an answer. It might not explain the question you asked, but it is an answer. It’s most often given when a parent doesn’t want to take the time to explain the reasoning behind the decision they made, that is being questioned by their child.
What to say when your mom says because I said so?
But maybe, next time, instead of saying “because I said so”, you can say one of these:
- “I don’t have time to explain right now, please trust me”
- “I need your help and would like you to do this, for me”
- “We can talk about it later, I just don’t think I can explain adequately right now”
Is because I said so a valid reason?
“Because I said so” is actually an appropriate phrase here. The key is to say it calmly after you’ve given a direction clearly and explained your reason once. After it’s said, just go do something else. Don’t allow yourself to be pulled into an argument with your child.
Why parents should say because I said so?
Even when it may be uttered out of frustration or exasperation, the “Because I Say So!” response pushes us into the authoritarian parenting style – not only does this fray our relationship with our kids, but could result in our kids ending up being fearful and anxious, less self-confident, and poor communicators.
Why do parents say stop crying?
Trying to stop a child crying by telling them to “stop crying” is like being told to “calm down” when you are upset. It actually creates the opposite response. Children crying in public triggers this response from parents even more. I hear parents issue warning after warning for the crying or the tantrum to stop.
What type of parent is labeled because I said so?
If any of those ring true, you might be an authoritarian parent. Authoritarian parents believe kids should follow the rules without exception. Authoritarian parents are famous for saying, “Because I said so,” when a child questions the reasons behind a rule.
Authoritarian parenting is an extremely strict parenting style. It places high expectations on children with little responsiveness. As an authoritarian parent, you focus more on obedience, discipline, control rather than nurturing your child. However, the children they raise are typically good at following rules.
Is it bad to say no baby?
You can say no to a baby, as long as it’s said to protect them from danger and not punish them for things babies normally do. It’s hard to find a middle ground when saying no to a baby. Either way, babies need just the right amount of “no” in order to better understand the boundaries that keep them safe.
Why does my mom always try to help me?
While some moms try to help out of genuine care, it’s a habit that can hold you back from becoming independent. Other toxic moms might act like this intentionally to keep you dependent on her. It might be because she wants to be in control or because she’s having a tough time letting go of the role of caretaker.
Is your mother holding you back from becoming independent?
While some moms try to help out of genuine care, it’s a habit that can hold you back from becoming independent. Other toxic moms might act like this intentionally to keep you dependent on her.
What should you do when your mother says bad things about you?
As therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle, “A mother’s role is to provide unconditional love, safety, and support,” so it’ll feel really bad when she uses harsh words or brings up a sore subject. The best thing you can do, in these moments, is to take good care of yourself.
Why does my mom act like I am dependent on her?
Other toxic moms might act like this intentionally to keep you dependent on her. It might be because she wants to be in control or because she’s having a tough time letting go of the role of caretaker. Either way, let her know that you appreciate the help but that she has to respect your boundaries. Does your mom brush off your problems?